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Feeding Tube after Oral Cancer Surgery Necessary?


Dear Eva,
After your surgery did you feel like you would never be normal again? I’m really struggling with that part. I have to go back in tomorrow to remove a small part in the back of my tongue to make margins clean. I’m starting 37 days of radiation after the holidays. The feeding tube I have is the most painful part of everything. I’m demanding it out! But they say I will be unable to swallow during radiation. Did you have that problem ? Everything is so scary, now more than before. They say the type of cancer I have, if it comes back, will do so during the next two years. I hate to live scared but I’m afraid this is what my life has become. I just want to get back to being me.
Roberta

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Dear Roberta,

Do what is best for you, not them. No feeding tube is perfectly possible. Yes, you have to force yourself to eat, and it hurts like you can’t imagine, like the worst sore throat you have ever had in your life, but it is possible. In fact, I have met several survivors who relied on the feeding tube too much and they needed months of swallowing therapy to learn how to swallow again. So, there is a negative to having the feeding tube, too.

They are right that if it comes back it will most likely come back in the next two years, but guess what, with the radiation….you are doing everything possible to prevent that from happening.

You WILL get back to yourself, but you need to give yourself 5 months….at least 6 weeks post radiation. But when you look at the length your life will be (like mine) the 6 months or so to deal with this will be a blip of nothingness.

Balance the pain you are experiencing with the joys that life gives you. They are harder to see with the pain, but they are there if you look hard enough.

Sending you a hug,
Eva

Dear Eva,
You just made my day…. Thank you.

Dear Eva,
I did not get the tube out but they did take out little bolts around it which were so painful. The past week has been extra painful because they went back in and sliced the back of my tongue.

How long after you stopped radiation did you feel better than decent? I’m planning a big vacation with my family and am thinking end of March or April. I finish radiation mid to end of March. The last thing I want to do is go on vacation and feel bad.

Thank God for you… You have been an inspiration for me through all of this.

Roberta,
You need two weeks after radiation just for the symptoms to subside. Then, you need a couple of weeks to feel more normal. So, look into late April instead of late March. I, too, planned a vacation 2 months after treatment, and it really helped to have something to look forward to – great idea on your part!

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  1. Roberta,
    I was diagnosed with tongue cancer back on March 1st 2013. Had section of tongue removed with a flap to replace tissue removed plus a neck dissection to remove 40 Lymph Nodes.After a month of the surgery I was starting to eat normal foods again. ALL BUT, HOT AND SPICY AND HARD TO CHEW plus supplemented my meals with Glucerna 1.5 by Abbott.

    A Month and a half later, I had 30 days of Radiation from nose down to collarbone. I was fine till about half way thru my treatment. My Salivary Glands were greatly effected and I experienced dry mouth and still to this day.

    I have to be honest and say that the radiation treatment was more debilitating to me than the surgery.The last week of Radiation Treatment and the next 3-4 weeks were the worst for me. I was living on 1 to 2 cans of Glucerna 1.5 each day for a week and was losing 1 lb. each day. Before my operation I weighed in at 325 lbs. After surgery I had dropped to 280 LBS and after radiation I had dropped to to 255lbs.

    I only had a feeding tube for 2-3 weeks after surgery. I had no feeding tube during radiation but was eating pureed foods, pudding, ice cream and such. After radiation I could not eat any of the above let alone the can or 2 of Glucerna. After a week of losing a pound a day I was feeling weak and knew I had to do something to increase my calorie intake or they were going to put a feeding tube back in me. I finally found that by adding 4 ounces of water to every 4 ounces of glucerna that I was able to swallow better with less pain and consume more 4 to 6 8oz. cans gradually the 2nd week.

    Radiation effects every individual slightly differently and all I can say is it is a day to day month to month progress. Fatigue can play a big factor. Rest and eating well and walking were my best personal remedies. Plus experimenting with different food to find the easiest to eat. I started with Creme of Broccoli soup and Creme of Wheat.

    The months have passed and my current weight is 266 lbs. I am eating just about everything normal but still no HOT and Spicy. I attribute my good recovery to a positive attitude, patience, and my hobby of playing guitar. It really helps to pass the time.

    You are not alone.

    My Best Wishes to you Roberta,
    Frank R

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    Frank, Thank you for responding to Roberta. I was just thinking about her today, and going to send her a quick email, when your post came in. Now, I will write to her and have the additional support for her from you. I’m really proud of you for keeping your weight up and staying positive and finding solutions that work for you. Keep walking and playing the guitar and experimenting with food. You are an inspiration.
    Eva

  3. Is it mandatory to get radiation done after tongue surgery. I had tongue cancer in 2007 and now again in 2017. Earlier also they told that taking radiation would be extra precautions, but i did not opt for it. And every thing was fine. This time they say it was not reoccurrence but the fresh development for which surgery is done. Pls guide whether i can avoid radiation if they recommend.
    Thanks
    Vikas

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      Radiation after surgery for oral cancer is very common because most of the time the cancer is caught late. Even if the tumor is removed with clean margins, microscopic cells can still be present. When the cancer is caught in a very early stage, sometimes the recommendation by doctors is to watch for change…diligently! Sounds like you got lucky the first time, that 10 years ago, when radiation was protocol, you obviously didn’t need it. Now that you have a new primary, you have to make the decision again whether to have it. I would ask, how old are you? Do you have a good support system? Is it worth it to you to take a chance on your life and deal with the challenging side effects of radiation?

  4. My husband was diagnosed with mouth cancer last week. We caught it early, but I am so scared , his age is 76 . I hate for him to be uncomfortable, or in pain. What can I do to make this more comfortable for him.

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      JoAnne, Life is bittersweet. Even though it won’t be comfortable for your husband, focus on the many opportunities that will emerge from this challenging experience. You will learn who your very best friends really are. You will recognize the value of being a part of a community. You will have an opportunity to teach family and friends what it means to be supportive, what it means to care what it means to be a partner.

      Through this journey, you need to take care of yourself so you are in the best shape to be his primary caregiver. You will make him ‘comfortable’ or happier by showing him you can both still live and enjoy life. Make an effort to laugh everyday together. Do things that bring you both joy. And, find gratitude in all the support that will come your way.

  5. Hi all, just diagnosed with base tongue cancer caused by HPV 16. Going to have 7 weeks of radiation (the new pencil beam Proton Thrapy) and chemo. They said tumor is too big for surgery, would loose speech & posible swallowing function. Doc was pushing for me to have a feeding tube put in, but I refused for now to see if I’ll need it. He said 33-50% if his patients end up with it. Going for mask & Pet Scan Monday. All advise welcome, thanks, Bill D

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      Be sure to get on the Oral Cancer Foundation Patient Forum. It’s a great place to get information from reliable sources/experts. Where are you being treated?

  6. my boyfriend is having tongue cancer surgery in a few weeks.. i am scared because he has liver problems… he doesnt want a feeding tube or a trach… thank you for the info

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      Wendy, I never had a feeding tube or trach. Actually, it’s important to continue to swallow throughout the process. Where is he getting treated? Did you get a second opinion? Your boyfriend needs your strength and fortitude. Cry when he isn’t looking. Talk to friends to get the support you need, then be there for him fully with confidence for a great outcome.

      1. hi Eva we go on tuesday dec 10 the dartmouth medical center.. he is in so much pain…
        my best friend is flying up to be with me.. thank you so much..xo

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          Wendy, You are lucky to have a friend to support you. Everyone who knows you will understand the value of friends through times like these. Nourish friendships with those who can be with you in the hard times. How is he doing now?

  7. My Mom just got diagnosis’s with tongue cancer on the rt side middle tongue she only weighs 100 pounds and also is a diabetic so tell me about radiation treatment and 7 weeks of that is treatment and they want a feeding tube placed into her stomach…so does this hurt and why they doing this?

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      Angela, I went through radiation without a feeding tube, but eating was a challenge because radiation causes a lot of sores in the mouth making even swallowing saliva painful. However, my treatment was 20 years ago. Equipment is more targeted now and they may be able to limit side effects. Know that eery cancer is different and everyone responds differently to treatment. Perhaps, it would be good to ask, ‘how old or new is the IMRT (radiation) equipment? If the treatment is too rough for her, can the amount of radiation be reduced? Does she have to have a feeding tube?’ About the feeding tube, some people rely on it so much the muscles forget how to swallow and it’s something that needs to be relearned. Others have no problem with it. It can be comfortable for some and very uncomfortable for others. Cleaning it properly can be difficult. How close is your mom to the hospital? How old is she? How positive is she? There are a lot of factors that may help you make a decision that is best for your mother.

  8. I am so worried. My mother had tongue cancer surgery and she’s so tired of her feeding tube. I need to know, is she going to talk again? Will the pain in her throat go away? Will she be able to swallow easily? Is there any hope to go back to normal life again?

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      Yes, there is hope! The treatment is so difficult to endure, yet two weeks after treatment is over, the first glimmer of hope appears. Worrying isn’t helpful or productive. Your job is to be as positive as possible. Continually focus on your blessings. Find jokes, movies, cards that will make her laugh. Build her up. Easier said than done, but a goal to strive toward. In this new year, focus on ‘an attitude of gratitude.’

  9. My father hasn’t eaten in 5 days and barely drinks water. He continues to refuse a feeding tube even though his weight dropped from 158 to 120. He doesn’t complain but his health is going downhill fast. Radiation for his oropharyngeal cancer ended almost 3 months ago! Our whole family is begging him to save himself. As a warrior in the Vietnam war, he drove a tank and set traps in the jungle single-handedly He cares about his country but doesn’t care about himself. I want him to rediscover the fight and save himself. What can I do?
    from Billy

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      Dear Billy,

      Your father is making a very personal decision by refusing a feeding tube. He fought for his country at the expense of his own life. Maybe now, for the first time, he is the Lieutenant/General and making his own executive decision.

      Respect your dad and support his decisions. Believe in your heart he is doing what is best for him (and ‘his country.’) Continue to tell him what you love about him. Tell him WHY you want him to fight instead of barking orders, even if those demands come from a place of love. How has he impacted your life and infused it with wisdom? Be specific. The more intimate you are with him, the more open and honest he will be with you. Speak to him from a place of love instead of anger or judgement. This can foster communication on a deep level. Perhaps, your dad will share intimate details of his experience and why he is making the choices you can’t understand. People who haven’t been through this disease can’t understand what it’s like to lose the ability to swallow, speak and taste which most of us take for granted.

      Your love of your father is admirable and I wish you courage,
      Eva

  10. Sounds similar to mine. I did it without feeding tube. I had thrush the whole time which compounded things. 33 radiation and 8 chemo. I did take narcotics and they may or may not help with swallowing pain. I had 1 opening in my throat that I could get things through. Had to get angle right and drink water behind . With all the blisters and swelling every day brought a new experience. Pills might show back up next day cause of hanging on ablister and can’t tell it’s there. Had one get loss in swelling under my tongue. Took me week before it dissolved. Food was very limited with pain. Cut exercise out because I couldn’t get enough calories. 210 to 160 in weight but feel better with weight loss. I’m 5’11”. Never got sick but did wear a mask and stayed out of public as much as possible. Magic mouthwash was a little strange trying to eat solid foods because it numbed throat and couldn’t tell if getting things down responsibly. Just used to help with sleeping and nagging cough because of swelling near gag reflex is my best guess. I recommend getting tube if you don’t have gag reflex because you will have to regurgitate a lot to get things completely down. It’s not like acid reflux, it’s just mushy food you have to work at. Good luck

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      Dennis, Thank you for your advice. I myself did not have a feeding tube, so i can’t give personal advice. however, like you, I had a lot of swelling at the back of my throat and gagged a lot. Glad you are well now and reaching out to help others.

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